There are a number of different types of lesbians. These include butches, studs, futches, femmes, high femmes, chapstick lesbians, lipstick lesbians, baby dykes and non-binary dykes.
Butch and femme were the first two lesbian labels you’ll likely hear, but there are many more – and they all have their own unique aesthetics.
Baby Dyke Lesbian
A baby dyke lesbian is someone who recently discovered their queer identity and is exploring the lesbian scene. They might have a lot of ideas about the types of girls they like, but they’re also very eager to dive in and learn everything they can about the gay community.
Baby dykes can be anyone in the lesbian community. They can be butch, femme, bear, diesel, or anything in between.
If you’re a baby dyke, there are a few things you should know about yourself. You should never be ashamed of your sexuality and you should definitely not feel pressured to hide it from others.
You should never be afraid to try new things and you should always be free to live your life how you want to. And most importantly, you should never be afraid to go out and get laid!
If you’re a baby dyke, I recommend you go out and start dating as soon as possible. It’s the best way to get familiar with the gay community and meet lots of cool people! Plus, you’ll learn more about yourself along the way. You might even end up finding your one true love! Just keep in mind, dating can be a minefield and you’ll have to be very careful not to get yourself into a rut.
Femme Lesbian
A femme lesbian is a woman who performs femininity and is attracted exclusively to women. A gender non-conforming male does not have this experience and does not date women (even if they are attracted to men).
Femininity is often seen as a source of empowerment or healing, especially for queer femmes who have experienced sexual trauma or been pressured to suppress their sexual appetite under heteropatriarchal rules. This has led to some criticisms of the concept of the femme, arguing that it can be used as a tool of social control or a form of subjugation.
However, while this criticism has been critical in challenging the notion that the femme lesbian is a distinct entity, it has not always been successful. Many feminists, for example, have argued that to claim a “femme” identity as a way of empowering women who have been denied their right to femininity is misguided, particularly when it assumes that a feminine aesthetic is fixed and unchanging.
Despite this, I remain convinced that the femme lesbian has a place in our feminist and queer world. I believe that it has a vital role in our movement to dismantle heteropatriarchy and build a just society, one that is equitable for all. But I also believe that it has limitations.
Power Lesbian
The power lesbian is a term used to describe a lesbian who excels in her field and has high status in her social circle. They usually have a career in politics, business or the arts and often dress to impress.
A recent article in the Cut by Kelly Conaboy describes Jennifer Lawrence’s remark that she would like to be “slutty power lesbian.” The article points out that queer identities are frequently reduced to tropes that fetishize and are therefore marginalized.
But it is important to understand that lesbians who eschew the lesbian stereotype and embrace heterosexuality can also be powerful women. For example, Ellen DeGeneres is a successful lesbian who has wads of cash and huge cultural capital.
Using relational-cultural theory and social exchange theory, this dissertation investigates how power, resources, and tasks are negotiated and distributed within lesbian relationships. This process may affect the perceived level of intimacy and sexual satisfaction.
In a study of 127 self-identifying lesbians, those who were less dependent on their relationship and had greater personal resources tended to have more power in the relationship. This finding is consistent with social exchange theory, which predicts that power imbalances in lesbian relationships can have a negative impact on the perceived level of intimacy and sexual satisfaction between partners.