The ability to converse with others is no longer a skill that comes naturally to most people. The years of quarantine have robbed the introverts of their much-needed practice in this area and finding the opportunity to practice seems overwhelming for many people. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming or daunting, though, and refreshing that skillset or completely possible! The best part of renewing this ability through Flirt121 means that you don’t have to look the person in the face, and any awkward mannerisms you might have become completely invisible! This takes away have the struggle right away!
If you still struggle to find the words, or if conversation has never come naturally to you, or even if you’re a great speaker and just want to become better, there are some basics to a conversation that will bring your phone chat to the next level!
First and foremost, talking on the phone isn’t just about talking, it’s also about listening. You are only half of a conversation and listening to what your partner has to say will give you a prompt for a response and make the conversation flow much easier. If you don’t know how to start a conversation, then ask your partner about themselves! As people, we love talking about ourselves, and you will develop a connection with your partner that will make them feel heard.
Asking them about themselves will also open up your range of topics based on their responses, so you’re more likely to find a common connection with that person. When asking about their hobbies, you may have a similar interest that you can discuss. If you’ve never tried one of their hobbies, then you can ask them to explain it more in depth so you can understand! Either way, you get to know something they enjoy, and you have more topics to add to the conversation part of your chat!
As you ask questions and get to know your partner, make sure you’re asking open-ended questions. Nothing is worse than thinking you have a great question, and the response you receive is only one or two words. Instead of asking “Do you enjoy reading?” try asking “What books do you like to read?”. Make sure your question provides the opportunity to expand on the answer instead of just “yes” or “no”.
Respond to what they’re saying, not to what you think they’re going to say. Many people think they know what a person’s response will be, and so instead of listening to their partner’s response, they start formulating a response to what they think will be said. Even if you have to pause a moment after the response, make sure you actually listen to their answer before you respond with your own answer. It sounds like a silly detail, but this little trick in the way you converse will make all your conversations feel more fulfilling, and you will feel closer to the person you’re getting intimate with later.
Be yourself! You’re more interesting than you think you are! Everyone has their own unique story, whether it’s your real story or not. Most books don’t start out with the main character being the most interesting person in the world. You have to keep reading and build up to them becoming a hero. You are the hero of your own story, whether you realize it or not, and your partner will see that in you. Give them a chance to get to know you and form that bond with you, so they’ll want to chat with you again and again! Repeat phone chat partners make better phone sex partners, later, because they already know what turns you on and how to give you that intense pleasure that you want, to begin with!
Don’t be afraid to open up to your chat line partner and be the person you want to be! Get to know who they are, as well, and let them take your basic happy place and turn it into an oasis filled with pleasure and the knowledge of how to get you to that point! You won’t be disappointed that you did!